If you’ve survived to adulthood, chances are you’ve been through some stuff and you’re not necessarily the bubbly extrovert most people associate with successful networkers.
The good news is that you don’t have to be an extrovert to successfully navigate a networking event. That’s right, I said successfully navigate not survive a networking event.
If you, like me, sometimes find networking to be exhausting but necessary, here are some tips and tricks for you.
- Networking with a buddy is a completely legitimate way to work a room. Pick someone in advance that you trust, arrange to get there at the same time, and work the room together. As long as you and your buddy keep moving, you’re set.
- Virtually everything on the calendar is a conversation starter. Is it Fall? Ask if their kids had a hard time with back to school. Winter? Ask about holiday plans. Spring? The warmer weather has been so nice, hasn’t it? Have you been able to get out at all? Summer? You get where I’m going with this. There is always something to talk about if you just remember the calendar.
- Be interested to be interesting. People love to talk about themselves so small talk as long as you can to nurture the relationship. Notice something interesting/fun/cool about them and ask about it in an authentic way (you have to mean it, you shouldn’t just throw a compliment away). Great shoes! Love that tie! Are you wearing a pocket square? How dapper! I once approached a woman because she had a beautiful purse and she’s now one of my favorite people on earth and has become an ally as we navigate jobs and career goals.
- Givers get, so don’t enter any networking situation wondering what you’ll get out of it. Enter it wondering who you’ll be able to help. And I don’t mean help by selling them something. Listen to people and their problems, their pain points, and ask yourself: do I know someone who can help? We all have a trusted plumber, mechanic, electrician, tutor, etc. Be a resource for people and before you know it, you’re someone people WANT in their networks.
- Don’t overschedule yourself. I used to be out networking 2-3 nights per week and then out early for more networking 2-3 mornings per week and it’s a great way to exhaust yourself to the point of damage. Be easy with yourself. Be gentle. Know your limits and stay within them.
Remember, it’s not as hard as it looks, it just feels that way sometimes.
You’ve got this.
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