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March 25, 2016

Are You An “18-Second Listener?”

I recently attended a two-day conference for meeting planners on the subject of leadership and communication. While I learned many things during those two days, my biggest takeaway was the importance of leadership and communication through listening.

At the beginning of the section on communication, a segment of a speech by Tom Peters was played. Peters, a writer and business consultant, cites a survey that reports a doctor listens for a total of 18 seconds on average before interrupting their patients and giving their thoughts and suggestions. Peters then turns to ask us, the viewers, if we are “18-second listeners.” This question truly struck me. How many times have people come up to us to ask a question and before fully expressing their thoughts, we have our answer for them? An active listener allows for someone to share their concerns uninterrupted and helps the asker to work to find their own answers. A true leader encourages those around them to problem solve.

How does one become an active listener? The Forbes article 10 Steps To Effective Listening by Dianne Schilling had some great suggestions:

  1. Face the speaker and maintain eye contact.
  2. Be attentive, but relaxed.
  3. Keep an open mind.
  4. Listen to the words and try to picture what the speaker is saying.
  5. Don’t interrupt and don’t impose your “solutions.”
  6. Wait for the speaker to pause to ask clarifying questions.
  7. Ask questions only to ensure understanding.
  8. Try to feel what the speaker is feeling.
  9. Give the speaker regular feedback.
  10. Pay attention to what isn’t said—to nonverbal cues.

All of the above steps make you, the listener, more receptive to what the speaker is saying. When you actively listen to others around you, you will be surprised about how much you truly hear and learn.

Shelby A. Parish
Shelby A. Parish, IOM,CAE, CMP
Former Senior Manager, Institute for Organization Management
U.S. Chamber of Commerce Foundation

Shelby Parish, IOM, CMP is former senior manager of Institute for Organization Management, a four-year educational program on nonprofit management of the U.S. Chamber of Commerce Foundation. Parish oversees society state partnerships, sponsorships, scholarships, and registration system management. She also works on various aspects of the program’s logistics, including catering, transportation, and special events. Parish also manages the Institute summer intern program. She graduated from the University of Florida with a degree in political science and a certificate in public policy.

Comments

  1. Frank Kenny says

    March 26, 2016 at 3:39 pm

    Nothing is more irritating than someone that asks a question or turns the conversation over but won’t let the other person finish their thought. It is insulting.

    Personally, I often have the urge to jump in and share my point of view mid sentence but have learned how rude it is. Let people finish their thought or they will think you don’t matter to them. Trust is lost.

    Thanks for writing this Shelby. Great reminder.

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  2. Lisa Langer, IOM says

    March 29, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    Shelby, thank you for sharing. Listening is such an underrated tool in gaining understanding. I have found that in some cases the person doing the talking just needs to be heard completely. They often formulate their own solution after someone takes the time to truly listen.

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